Saturday, November 18, 2017

Happy Birthday Jonny

Happy Birthday  on your "SPECIAL' day , I am at your side as always .
  Reaching 16 is a milestone,
A happy point in life.
You've set your personality
And your tolerance for strife.

By now you know right from wrong
And how to influence friends.
It’s time to look down the road
At forks and around the bends.

The road ahead is wonderful,
Some choices will be clear.
Your path depends on bravery
To push aside the fear. 

When you chose this way or that,
Slow choices or if snappy,
Make the choices best for you,
The ones that make you happy. 
Happy Birthday 
Daddy , Mama  , Sha , Jenny , Man 

Wednesday, November 15, 2017

Why Men Like Louis C.K. Use Masturbation to Assault Women

It’s hard to believe it’s been just over a month since the New York Times published its original piece on Harvey Weinstein, considering how many new reports have surfaced about sexual harassment in Hollywood since then.

The #MeToo campaign took off on social media, forcing many to confront the rampant issue. Plus, countless men and women have come forward to publicly accuse both Weinstein and other powerful men — there are just too many to list here — of sexual harassment. The allegations have ranged from inappropriate, vulgar language to full-on assault.
But as CNN points out, “One form of harassment has become a recurring theme,” especially with the latest stories surrounding comedian Louis C.K. There’s isn’t a word for this act. You might describe it as something like unwanted masturbatory display, or when a powerful man pleasures himself in front of a woman, forcing her to be an observer.

CNN reporters dug deeper, trying to understand the psychology behind the behavior.

They spoke to James Cantor, director of the Toronto Sexuality Centre, who explained, “This is exhibitionism, an extreme form of it.” Of the men who engage in this kind of behavior, Cantor explained, “They rarely escalate. The exhibition, the actual displaying of the genitals, is the goal.”

Still, that doesn’t mean the victims — those forced to watch — are any less traumatized than if there had been physical contact. “The rules have gone out of the window, and [the victim] doesn’t know if this will escalate into violence or rape,” Cantor said.

Unfortunately, Cantor said that it’s hard to know what causes the behavior in men: They can spend years in therapy trying to figure it out. Dr. Prudence Gourguechon, former president of the American Psychoanalytic Association, told CNN that she thinks it comes from a “wish to be looked at and admired.”

Gourguechon also has a theory that the behavior allows for “a kind of strange plausible deniability.” As she explained to CNN, “He could think to himself, ‘Well, I didn’t rape anyone,’ which is true in the broader sense, but it is a twisted defense.”

Indeed, in a statement released this morning by Louis C.K., in which he admits that the accusations against him are true, he writes: “At the time, I said to myself that what I did was OK because I never showed a woman my dick without asking first. But what I learned later in life, too late, is that when you have power over another person, asking them to look at your dick isn’t a question. It’s a predicament for them.”

Whatever the reason behind this behavior, it is — obviously — completely unacceptable. We can only hope that with more of this horrific behavior coming to light, women will feel empowered to always speak up when dealing with harassment and abuse.

What Do YOU Think?

Are you surprised to learn that masturbating in front of someone is a disorder? Do you have any sympathy for Louis C.K. or give him credit for at least admitting what he’s done? Tell us in the comments below.

Thursday, November 9, 2017

The Daily Show with Trevor Noah A year into Trumpland

Predicting how the world will look at the end of the day is dicey in the era of Donald Trump, but a betting person might feel safe to wager that Wednesday night’s “The Daily Show with Trevor Noah” will open on an upbeat note.
Progressives are celebrating significant wins at the local and state level around the country, including Virginia. The headlines are dominated by declarations of how these victories give liberals a reason for hope.

A year ago, the election day telecast of “The Daily Show” on Comedy Central felt very different to viewers as well as the people who make it. In a February interview with Salon executive producer Steve Bodow described the feeling as “hallucinatory.” But to hear the show’s head writer Zhubin Parang describe the days, week and months that followed, our experience has morphed into something more akin to being on speed.

“The way we have thought about it recently is that we have had to think of Trump as being a fire hydrant that has busted open on the street,” Parang told Salon in a recent phone conversation. “Initially that was a huge thing and everybody in the street was freaking out and like, ‘Oh my god this fire hydrant is blasting water everywhere.’ But it feels the fire hydrant has been going off two, three years now.”

Year 1 of Trumpland has coincided with the second year of Parang’s tenure leading “The Daily Show” writers room. In that time the series found a way to balance hard-hitting satire with a sense of playfulness. As a Persian man raised in Knoxville, Tennessee, Parang feels the impact of executive orders and bans more than many, and certainly in a way most comedy writers — a fraternity dominated by white men of European descent — would not.

“It's especially bad because the way [Trump] talks about Iran and Iranians. As someone who has family over there, he's talking about my aunts and my grandparents and cousins being these supposed terrorists and sponsors of evil,” Parang said. “And it's especially frustrating because the things he says about Iran are actually true about Saudi Arabia. They're violently repressive, they're cruel to women . . . but because they invite him over to sword dance and touch an orb, I guess that's okay.”

At the same time, Parang says he’s careful to separate his personal feelings from writing the show’s material. “We're not looking just to make lengthy rants about why Trump’s foreign policy should seek rapprochement with Iran. I’m trying to articulate Trevor’s voice about particular issues, and so to the extent that I have personal feelings about something, I can't really just express them in anger and frustration, I have to turn that into comedy.”

He added, “I'm very lucky that Trevor also has a very internationalist perspective of the world. Because we share a lot of the same opinions on the inherent goodness of people, and their failure in their leadership to come to peace, instead of this view that Trump has that there are certain people that are just evil and have to be addressed with through force and there can't be any negotiation.”

As grueling as the past year has felt to the average bystander bracing herself from the impact of the Petulant Pumpkin’s next hyperbolic tweet, it’s also been an extraordinary time for Parang to be the head writer for a version of “The Daily Show.”

The series boasts a more diverse group of correspondents than it had in previous years, and their blend of perspectives has led to hilarious and cathartic field pieces, including Ronny Chieng’s takedown of Fox’s Jesse Watters’ racist street report from New York’s Chinatown, Hasan Minhaj’s honest distillation of the experience of being a Muslim in today’s America, and scathing insights into the struggles African Americans face from Roy Wood Jr. and newcomer Dulce Sloan.

During that time Noah also has come into his own largely due to his familiarity with men like Trump. “Trevor has a unique perspective on him because Trevor has seen Donald Trumps before,” Parang said, citing a segment in which Noah pointed out the many similarities Trump shares with African dictators.

“Because Trevor has grown up around countries that have flamboyant showman dictators, who constantly use divisiveness and elite hostility to keep power and be corrupt in power, Trevor is used to living in that world.” Parang explained. “And that didn't quite make sense during the Obama era when the president was the embodiment of American multiculturalism and intelligence.”

When Trump assumed office, Parang added, “it felt like the United States was suddenly regressing to the global mean in the maturity of its democracy. And to have Trevor there to not be constantly shocked was a huge comfort to me, because it felt like, ‘okay, this will be okay.’ I've got this guy every day sitting on the couch with me who can tell me that South Africa went through the exact same thing.”

Not long after Noah took over in 2015 critics and a number of viewers seemed all too ready to write him off.  Now, the channels press department keeps having to recycle releases headlines boasting of the series recording its most-watched month ever. The latest is dated August 31, when the show became the #1 nightly talk show among millennials, surging past “The Tonight Show Starring Jimmy Fallon” among Adults 18-34. Two weeks later, Comedy Central extended Noah’s contract through 2022.

Mind you, he still has a way to go to win back Jon Stewart loyalists who may have migrated to series helmed by “Daily” alumni — namely Noah’s nightly competitor Stephen Colbert on CBS’s the late show, or weekly series such as “Full Frontal with Samantha Bee” or “Last Week Tonight with Jon Oliver.” Even so, Noah’s rep for skewering Trump has not gone unnoticed.

Parang doesn’t view Bee, Oliver and Colbert as competitors, however. “We love all our sister shows and we're very glad that they're there, Parang said. “The challenges we have as a daily show require a different format than their challenges as a weekly show. And there's a blessing and curse for both of us. On our side,  it is unfortunate that we generally don't have the time to sit down and think through larger pieces. We still do them when we can, but by and large we're not able to do that as often as the weekly shows do.

“On the other hand,” he continued, “we are able to react to a much more wider range of issues, and we are able to be the first ones there to give our comments on the news, to be able to make fun of something. And I think that's something that the weekly shows don't get to do. By the time it comes around to Wednesday or Sunday, the conversations already moved on so fast. The cycle is so fast the conversation's already moved on.”

Asked about his hopes for the next 365 days, Parang laughed before taking a deep breath.
“I'm not one of those people who's okay with bad things happening to the United States if it means that the comedy is good,” he said. “So when I think about where the country is headed, I would rather trade in an easier joke for a government that is responsive to its citizens needs and is active in caring for them.”
Until that time comes he and Noah, and “The Daily Show” writers and correspondents, intend to  continue their mandate be what Parang referred to as “good catharsis.”

We’re going to need all the help we can get to make it through Year 2.

Kevin Spacey: Former TV anchor Heather Unruh says Spacey assaulted her son in 2016

 Erin Jensen,Maria Puente and Andrea Mandell, USA TODAY
Kevin Spacey has been accused by more than a dozen men who say he sexually harassed, groped, assaulted or attempted to rape them in allegations spanning decades since Oct. 29.

The latest developments:

Spacey to be cut entirely from 'All the Money in the World'

In an unprecedented move, beleaguered star Kevin Spacey will be completely cut from his upcoming film, All the Money in the World.

Instead, USA TODAY has confirmed, Christopher Plummer will be brought in to reshoot the role of J. Paul Getty in the story about the infamous 1973 kidnapping of 16-year-old John Paul Getty III.

According to a person familiar with the situation but not authorized to speak publicly about it, the decision was director Ridley Scott's and Sony is supporting his decision.

Scott and Sony are still committed to hitting the scheduled release date of Dec. 22. 

Former news anchor says Spacey assaulted her son

Heather Unruh, a former TV news anchor in Boston, said in a press conference Wednesday that the Oscar-winning actor assaulted her son, who was 18 at the time. Holding back tears, Unruh said in July 2016 that Spacey stuck his hand in her son’s pants and on his genitals at a bar in Nantucket, Mass.
Unruh said her son told Spacey he was of legal age to drink, and "Spacey bought him drink after drink after drink and when my son was drunk, Spacey made his move and sexually assaulted him." 

She continued, saying Spacey urged her intoxicated son to go to a private after-party to continue drinking, but a concerned bystander asked her son if he was OK. When he relayed that he was not, Unruh said the woman told her son to run and he did.

"Nothing could’ve prepared my son for how that sexual assault would make him feel as a man," she said. "It harmed him and it cannot be undone."

Unruh said her son filed a police report last week and provided evidence to Nantucket police. She says a criminal investigation was opened, though the Nantucket Police Department declined to confirm that to USA TODAY, citing Massachusetts law forbidding it.

Tara Miltimore , assistant district attorney and spokeswoman for the Cape & Islands District Attorney's Office, confirmed to USA TODAY that "an individual has provided information to the Nantucket Police regarding an allegation of an indecent assault and battery." She said the state statute of limitations for indecent assault and battery is six years.

Unruh said her son did not report the encounter to police because he was embarrassed and fearful. Now, she said, her son is "committed to doing what he can to stop Kevin Spacey from victimizing anyone else." 

She also had a message for the actor.

"To Kevin Spacey I want to say this: Shame on you for what you did to my son and shame on you for using your apology to Anthony Rapp to come out as a gay man," she said. "That was an appalling attempt to distract attention away from what you really are: a sexual predator. Your actions are criminal." 

Unruh appeared with attorney Mitchell Garabedian, who has represented victims of clergy sexual abuse, at a downtown Boston hotel. Garabedian, who also has represented an accuser of Bill Cosby, was portrayed in the Oscar-winning film, Spotlight, about The Boston Globe's investigation of clergy sexual abuse in the Boston Catholic archdiocese. 

"The civil claim against Kevin Spacey happened in Massachusetts and is well within the civil statute of limitations," Garabedian said. "It is also within the criminal statute of limitations. I am informed that my client did speak to the Nantucket police department and they are conducting an investigation." 

Spacey's reps did not immediately return USA TODAY's request for comment. Spacey issued a statement on Twitter following Rapp's allegations, saying he was "beyond horrified" and insisting he didn't remember the encounter. In the same statement, he came out as gay for the first time in public.

Monday, November 6, 2017

George H. W. Bush on Trump: ‘I don’t like him,’ according to new book

 Geobeats                November  4th 2017 
Former President George H. W. Bush shared during the campaign last year that he doesn’t like Donald Trump. 

According to CNN, the now-93-year-old made these on-the-record comments to historian Mark Updegrove who has released a new book titled, “The Last Republicans,” about him and his son, former President George W. Bush. 

The elder Bush told Updegrove in May 2016, “I don’t like him. I don’t know much about him, but I know he’s a blowhard. And I’m not too excited about him being a leader.”

Both men cited Trump’s ego and lack of humility as drawbacks to his viability as a leader, and the younger Bush pointed out that when the businessman said, “I am my own adviser,” it showed a lack of understanding about what being president entailed.

As such, Trump failed to win either of their votes, with George H. W. Bush casting his ballot for Democratic opponent Hillary Clinton and his son saying he chose, in his words, “none of the above,” reports the New York Times. 

Since he was interviewed for the book by Updegrove, the younger Bush has issued other critical remarks which seem to be aimed at President Trump. 

He gave a speech last month saying, “…we know that when we lose sight of our ideals, it is not democracy that has failed. It is the failure of those charged with preserving and protecting democracy.” 
He also decried what he called “nationalism distorted into nativism.”

The White House has released a scathing statement in response to critical remarks by former Presidents George H.W. Bush and George W. Bush in the new book.

“If one presidential candidate can disassemble a political party, it speaks volumes about how strong a legacy its past two presidents really had. And that begins with the Iraq war, one of the greatest foreign policy mistakes in American history,” a White House official told CNN. “President Trump remains focused on keeping his promises to the American people by bringing back jobs, promoting an ‘America First’ foreign policy and standing up for the forgotten men and women of our great county.”

Saturday, November 4, 2017

FOREIGN POLICY : U.S. officials fear North Korea will greet Trump with missile test

Meanwhile, people like legislative affairs director Marc Short and Vice President Mike Pence would be trying to convince those same members to get on board with the bill backed by House Speaker Paul Ryan. “The White House was speaking with many different voices and each person was hearing only what they wanted to hear,” said one senior Republican familiar with the conversations. “If you were in the Freedom Caucus, you were under the impression you could hold out.”

By the time the House finally passed a health care bill in early May, Republican leaders on Capitol Hill had determined that the president’s involvement – and that of the White House more broadly – was more trouble than it was worth. Senate Majority Leader Mitch McConnell made it clear to Trump that he was to play no role in ensuring the bill passed the Senate – that he should, in essence, leave it to the professionals.

The failure of the so-called professionals to pass that measure, on July 28, laid bare the ideological crack-up of the Republican party, which had campaigned for seven years on rolling back Obamacare, and underscored the inability of congressional leaders to deliver on their promises.

Throughout the debate on Capitol Hill, it became clear that Republican lawmakers were far less committed to rolling back President Barack Obama’s signature domestic achievement than they had claimed to be. West Virginia Senator Shelley Moore Capito, who had voted dozens of times as a House member to repeal Obamacare, explained her hesitation to back the Senate bill, telling reporters that she “didn’t come to D.C. to hurt people.” Trump’s election seemed to have revealed to lawmakers like Capito that their voters, even in deep red states like West Virginia, weren’t as enthusiastic about entitlement cuts as they had once thought.

And though Trump himself had not played a constructive role in securing the passage of the legislation – memorably calling the House bill “mean” and leaning on the Senate to amend it – the failure of congressional Republicans was a vindication for him in one regard. The fecklessness of the country’s political leaders had been one of his central campaign themes, and the demise of the health care bill, by a one-vote margin, threw it into stark relief.

It was something he wasted no time pointing out to the public, blasting McConnell on Twitter repeatedly throughout the month of August. “Can you believe that Mitch McConnell, who has screamed Repeal & Replace for 7 years, couldn't get it done. Must Repeal & Replace ObamaCare!” he tweeted on Aug. 10.

It was another dispute that put the divisions in the party on display – and gave voice to the grievances of the voters who lifted him to office.

“Do you think you’re being properly staffed?”

John Kelly, then Secretary of Homeland Security, posed the blunt question to the president after attending a scattered meeting at the White House, months before he would eventually join the West Wing team.

Trump didn’t respond to him in the moment. But the question lingered in his mind. In June the president revived the conversation – “Remember when you asked me if I was being well-served?” Trump asked him – and told Kelly he needed his help.

The arrival of a four-star Marine general in the White House last July, replacing Priebus, was greeted with high hopes both internally and externally. Many were looking for Trump to make a course correction, and Kelly embodied that change.

“He’s always respected the military structure,” said press secretary Sarah Huckabee Sanders. “He wanted more order, and he knew someone with Kelly’s background and operations style would be someone who would bring more structure.”

That meant an immediate shedding both of people and of personnel, once Kelly agreed to take the job. The changes came quickly, with Kelly making it clear that the people in the building and in meetings would be there because they were there to serve the country, not themselves, and not even simply the president.

Names were removed from the White House security list, meaning that insiders like former campaign manager Corey Lewandowski and former deputy campaign manager David Bossie, could no longer come and go as they pleased, without making an appointment.

Aides whom Kelly considered disruptive were pushed out. Chief strategist Steve Bannon left the White House in August. Trump’s longest-serving and closest aide, Keith Schiller, left the administration, in part, associates said, because he clashed with Kelly. With Schiller left the personal cell phone that many longtime Trump allies called to reach the boss. Kushner and Ivanka Trump agreed to report to Kelly, not directly to Trump, and their influence and presence in meetings became more limited.

Monday, October 30, 2017